FEAR NOT

Mending Broken Attachments

Pastor Hope Flask

May 19, 2024

Main Scripture: 1 John 4:7-21

Additional Scriptures: Isaiah 58:12, Matthew 5:9, Colossians 1:17-19, James 1:19, 5:16, Romans 12:9

POINTS:

• Conflict deferred is conflict amplified - Dr. John Deloney

• We are meant to be menders.

• Miscommunication happens because of our differences; differences like our genetic code, life experiences, communal experiences, culture, and trauma.

• Triggers: Emotional landmines that people step on that bring us back to that place of past trauma.

• Powerlessness is the most prominent emotion we feel when we are triggered.

• Healthy communication seeks to understand before being understood, practices empathy, and spends more time listening than speaking.

• When we feel powerless we will communicate…

• Passively: You matter, I don’t

• Aggressively: I matter, you don’t

• Passive-Aggressively: You matter, not really

• Love is coming under the protection of someone who has our best interest at heart.

• In this world, we are like Jesus (1 John 4:17)

• Mending relationships happen when we communicate “You matter, and so do I”.